I can change for the better, in shaa Allah!

Hi!

I hope you are in a good place and trying to pick yourself out of the Shawwal slump. May Allah forgive me and you and accept from the little we could do in Ramadan, ameen.

There are so many things we learn as kids from our caregivers/environment. Most we hope are positive and make us better humans with ourselves and others. Some unfortunately are very unhealthy to ourselves and others.

The fact that you learnt something from someone much older than you does not make it right/correct. The fact that the people from your family/culture/environment do things a certain way does not make it right. As an adult, it is upon you to take an inventory of your habits and try to work on them.

Don’t be a crappy human being with horrible human skills while blaming your past and refusing to take any responsibility. Get up and work on your anger issues, your procrastination, stop stonewalling and learn to be a better communicator, stop allowing people to treat you as a doormat, have boundaries: learn how to say no, pay back the debts you owe people, seek help for your addiction, stop using humour as an excuse to be passive-aggressive, respect boundaries, learn to manage your finances: stop being extravagant and showing off, let go of miserliness: buy good things for yourself and your family, put your life on the line for the halal things you truly value, work on your indecent choice of words, stop revering people only because of their financial capabilities: respect everyone, work on your arrogance, stop begging all the time, better your personal and oral hygiene, stop being a sheep following the herd: learn to make your own decisions as scary as it may be, take responsibility for your crappy behaviours and apologise.

Repeat after me, “I can change for the better, in shaa Allah! Myself, my family, future family, and the world deserve a decent human as a companion”.

May Allah forgive our shortcomings and assist us in becoming better versions of ourselves, ameen.

Fee Amanillah,

Umm Saalim

P.S. No one can be perfect but everyone can be a decent human that is liveable with.

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